You’re writing is exceptional! I hope you know that and if not I’d like to tell you it’s a strength of yours. I’m so happy we had a chance to chat this week, it’s gave me a lot to think about and you’re such a kind supportive person!
"It feels like you have to rebel from society and surrender ambition to be there for your children. And I don’t know what I’ll end up being like as a parent. But it’s worth exploring." This is something I've been thinking about recently. It feels like we can add 'being there for your children' as one of the most ambitious things we can aspire and work towards in a society that values work-related ambitions so highly. It'd be enough for me, I think & hope, to wake up every day with the people I love, just to have another fun, interesting, beautiful day together. Can't wait to explore this. It'll be next level world-building ;).
Being there for my children as a full time caregiver is not something I ever thought of as ambitious. In my culture it’s sort of a default setting. One parent has to scale up the career to pay for stuff and one parent has to take on the home and kids. Even for couples in which both parents are doctors, one parent has to pick the easier speciality or work part time. Being a present parent is what I aspire to be, even though I’m a stay at home mom. But maybe I’m living someone’s idea of fantasy. Thanks for promoting this divergent thinking
“It is so important to let people know the strengths you see in them. Call out their light. Don’t wait. It’s a gift–a genuine way to deepen your connection to others. It’s not easy for everyone to see the best in people. Yet, it is an underrated skill worth developing.” -- oh yes. This totally resonates. And I think it’s so fundamental that I dare say that’s what we’re in this world for. Brilliant piece, Camilo.
Speaking of appreciating others, you make it easy. Love your writing Camilo. Your thoughts on being slow to monetize are intriguing to me, and theoretically I'm on board, but as a family provider my money is not slow to depart from my bank account. After many decades as an entrepreneur I'm actually more grateful for that forcing function than I am resentful. The best risks I've ever taken career wise have come out of the necessity to monetize. And before I go, just wanted to appreciate this. "What is the minimum action you can take to prove to yourself that you do have agency over those circumstances?" I'd like to tattoo this one on the inside of my eyelids, so when I'm complaining or in a free-fall of anxiety over what seems out of control, I can find my seat again.
Thank you as always for bringing interesting thought to the comment section, Rick. I'm going to sit with the idea of some of your best moves coming out of the pressure to monetize. I've seen that dynamic in others, but for me it is panic inducing more than anything. I also get the pressure of providing for your family. It's a good caveat to consider with what I mentioned.
Finally, please don't tattoo your eyelids. That sounds painful.
You’re writing is exceptional! I hope you know that and if not I’d like to tell you it’s a strength of yours. I’m so happy we had a chance to chat this week, it’s gave me a lot to think about and you’re such a kind supportive person!
Thank you dear, Michelle! So thankful for you. If there is someone that has an innate ability to make others feel good, it's you!
"It feels like you have to rebel from society and surrender ambition to be there for your children. And I don’t know what I’ll end up being like as a parent. But it’s worth exploring." This is something I've been thinking about recently. It feels like we can add 'being there for your children' as one of the most ambitious things we can aspire and work towards in a society that values work-related ambitions so highly. It'd be enough for me, I think & hope, to wake up every day with the people I love, just to have another fun, interesting, beautiful day together. Can't wait to explore this. It'll be next level world-building ;).
Also, thanks for the shoutout Camilo!
"Next level world-building" I love it haha. And I was more than happy to give you a shout out. Your piece really resonated!
Being there for my children as a full time caregiver is not something I ever thought of as ambitious. In my culture it’s sort of a default setting. One parent has to scale up the career to pay for stuff and one parent has to take on the home and kids. Even for couples in which both parents are doctors, one parent has to pick the easier speciality or work part time. Being a present parent is what I aspire to be, even though I’m a stay at home mom. But maybe I’m living someone’s idea of fantasy. Thanks for promoting this divergent thinking
“It is so important to let people know the strengths you see in them. Call out their light. Don’t wait. It’s a gift–a genuine way to deepen your connection to others. It’s not easy for everyone to see the best in people. Yet, it is an underrated skill worth developing.” -- oh yes. This totally resonates. And I think it’s so fundamental that I dare say that’s what we’re in this world for. Brilliant piece, Camilo.
Grazie mille, Silvio!
Wonderful piece my friend, and our conversations are always a treat.
How did you know you made it in here? :P
That obvious, huh?
I had a hunch, but even if I didn't the comment is still true ;)
Speaking of appreciating others, you make it easy. Love your writing Camilo. Your thoughts on being slow to monetize are intriguing to me, and theoretically I'm on board, but as a family provider my money is not slow to depart from my bank account. After many decades as an entrepreneur I'm actually more grateful for that forcing function than I am resentful. The best risks I've ever taken career wise have come out of the necessity to monetize. And before I go, just wanted to appreciate this. "What is the minimum action you can take to prove to yourself that you do have agency over those circumstances?" I'd like to tattoo this one on the inside of my eyelids, so when I'm complaining or in a free-fall of anxiety over what seems out of control, I can find my seat again.
Thank you as always for bringing interesting thought to the comment section, Rick. I'm going to sit with the idea of some of your best moves coming out of the pressure to monetize. I've seen that dynamic in others, but for me it is panic inducing more than anything. I also get the pressure of providing for your family. It's a good caveat to consider with what I mentioned.
Finally, please don't tattoo your eyelids. That sounds painful.
: )