Camilo - so much in here to relish and comment on. You know me, I’ll pick the wisdom most of the time.
“I wish you ample doses of pain and suffering, and the wisdom to know the difference between suffering from healthy pursuits versus becoming the architect of your misery.”
I loved the Buddha’s parable of the second arrow. I hadn’t read that before. Thank you.
When I got to your footnotes, I LOL, and couldn’t help but think that “I’m sorry, this concert is sold out” is the first arrow 😳
Ok, you do have a point on the Ticketmaster one, James! I could be clever and say that this was all a test and that you passed with flying colors. In reality, it shows that I'm still learning to distinguish between the first and second arrow :)
"We should endeavor to minimize the pain and suffering we bring to ourselves and others. Treating ourselves and others with kindness and grace. Managing our expectations and our inner monologue so that we are not ruminating and suffering needlessly." Thank you for putting it so well, Camilo.
I love your response to mental health vs mental toughness! I was not expecting us to be in the same side of the tik tok debate! So well said! I’m probably a little more harsh (just ban it already) but I found your points to all be well argued. Also, coincidence we both worked in data and share this opinion?!? I think not.
Thanks Michelle! My gut instinct tells me "just ban it!" but then again, every day I feel like I barely know things and that I'm missing something, which is why I tend to hesitate on being so firm about most things (shrugs).
And also. Reading about mental toughness particularly is a topic of interest for me right now as I think about my daughter and how some most recent transitions have affected this little three year old. Resilience isn’t formed overnight and I struggle between trying to make sure she’s taken care of now and prepared for things to come. It’s a very hard balance mixed with mom guilt.
Also. Dragon Ball Z was such a huge part of my childhood as well. Memories flooded back to me with your incredibly accurate description of literally the same experiences I had as a kid.
Thank you dear Erica! Your comment has made me reflect more on resilience...to actually nail down the definition of the word and what it means. I don't think there is one way to teach it, and I also doubt whether parents can teach much in the way of resilience other than leading by example. I'm sitting with these thoughts. Thank you for inviting them!
Firstly, you must have never seen how long it takes me to pick a show on Netflix. Sheesh. And also, I am that ostrich.
I am proud of you for tackling what you did in this essay - life-giving vs chronic resiliency, politics, and life and death - and somehow managing to make me smile the whole way through. This essay felt like a news reel that was entertaining, informative, unbiased, and filled with comedic relief the whole way through. Like morning brew but less business-bro and more Camilo. This essay was a perfect representation of what people mean when they say, "the news doesn't have to be all drab and sad." I loved it, Camilo!!
Camilo - so much in here to relish and comment on. You know me, I’ll pick the wisdom most of the time.
“I wish you ample doses of pain and suffering, and the wisdom to know the difference between suffering from healthy pursuits versus becoming the architect of your misery.”
I loved the Buddha’s parable of the second arrow. I hadn’t read that before. Thank you.
When I got to your footnotes, I LOL, and couldn’t help but think that “I’m sorry, this concert is sold out” is the first arrow 😳
Ok, you do have a point on the Ticketmaster one, James! I could be clever and say that this was all a test and that you passed with flying colors. In reality, it shows that I'm still learning to distinguish between the first and second arrow :)
Camilo, my life is trying to distinguish the arrows :) and it’s so hard! Thank you for writing this 🙏
"We should endeavor to minimize the pain and suffering we bring to ourselves and others. Treating ourselves and others with kindness and grace. Managing our expectations and our inner monologue so that we are not ruminating and suffering needlessly." Thank you for putting it so well, Camilo.
Thank you, Irfan!
I love your response to mental health vs mental toughness! I was not expecting us to be in the same side of the tik tok debate! So well said! I’m probably a little more harsh (just ban it already) but I found your points to all be well argued. Also, coincidence we both worked in data and share this opinion?!? I think not.
Thanks Michelle! My gut instinct tells me "just ban it!" but then again, every day I feel like I barely know things and that I'm missing something, which is why I tend to hesitate on being so firm about most things (shrugs).
It’s probably healthy to say, maybe there’s a way to move quickly AND do our due diligence.
Came here to say. Fuck your Ticketmaster.
And also. Reading about mental toughness particularly is a topic of interest for me right now as I think about my daughter and how some most recent transitions have affected this little three year old. Resilience isn’t formed overnight and I struggle between trying to make sure she’s taken care of now and prepared for things to come. It’s a very hard balance mixed with mom guilt.
Also. Dragon Ball Z was such a huge part of my childhood as well. Memories flooded back to me with your incredibly accurate description of literally the same experiences I had as a kid.
Thank you dear Erica! Your comment has made me reflect more on resilience...to actually nail down the definition of the word and what it means. I don't think there is one way to teach it, and I also doubt whether parents can teach much in the way of resilience other than leading by example. I'm sitting with these thoughts. Thank you for inviting them!
Firstly, you must have never seen how long it takes me to pick a show on Netflix. Sheesh. And also, I am that ostrich.
I am proud of you for tackling what you did in this essay - life-giving vs chronic resiliency, politics, and life and death - and somehow managing to make me smile the whole way through. This essay felt like a news reel that was entertaining, informative, unbiased, and filled with comedic relief the whole way through. Like morning brew but less business-bro and more Camilo. This essay was a perfect representation of what people mean when they say, "the news doesn't have to be all drab and sad." I loved it, Camilo!!